Why Boundaries Aren't a Magic Wand (And Why You Are Not Tupperware)
If everyday you feel like you are constantly running a race you never agreed to enter, this episode is for you.
Many women over 45 find themselves carrying it all at once.
Aging parents.
Children launching or returning home.
Careers that still demand excellence.
Bodies that are changing in ways no one prepared us for.
The calendar is full, the pressure is constant, and the message everywhere you look is the same: You just need better boundaries.
In today’s episode, Mattie gently challenges that idea.
While boundaries are important, they are not a magic fix.
Because if you build a ten-foot wall around your life but you’re still anxious and exhausted behind it, the problem isn’t the boundary. It’s what’s happening inside the gate.
This conversation is an invitation to stop compartmentalizing your life and start honoring your wholeness.
You are not meant to live like a bento box, neatly divided into roles and responsibilities.
You bring your whole self into every room you enter: your history, your nervous system, your grief, your wisdom, and your humanity. And when we try to separate those parts just to “cope,” the exhaustion deepens.
In this episode, Mattie explores why boundaries work best when they protect your wholeness, not when they are used as a cure-all for stress and overwhelm.
You will walk away with:
Relief from the pressure to “fix” yourself with better time management
A deeper understanding of why boundaries sometimes feel hard to hold
Permission to honor who you are now (not who you were at 25)
A gentler, more integrated way to protect your energy and peace
A reminder that you are not a problem to be solved, but a whole woman to be honored
Mattie also shares why she created Boundaries Unleashed, a course designed to help women stop using boundaries as weapons (or avoiding them altogether) and start using them as supportive tools for a life that actually feels good.
Because boundaries are meant to support a life you want to live.
Let’s begin choosing something different - together.
If you’re ready to stop running your life from survival mode, Boundaries Unleashed is a practical, step-by-step course designed for women in this exact season.
It teaches you how to pause, reduce over-functioning, and set boundaries that protect your capacity—without abandoning the people you care about.
Learn more and join us here.
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